Single and…?

This picture was taken in the 90’s in Central Park, NY. Every now and then when I see this, I wonder who he is. I never saw him, busy posing. No doubt he saw me 😊! The joys of being single and free [to look]😍 . Well – may be it’s not so much joy for you right now. Or, may be it is!

As we celebrate what I so fondly call the ‘Lovuary’ month, there’s a bit of focus on the special people [or lack thereof] in our lives. A blogger buddy of mine did a fun piece on ”What type of Couple are You?’ That caused me to reflect on the type of singles I see around.

What kind of single are you? Single and free to mingle. Single and available or unavailable. Single and hopeful or hopeless. Single and searching. Single and satisfied. Single and desperate. Single and content. Single and burning [my church friends get this one😎]. Single and bitter. Single and better. Maybe you’re lonely. Or you have a fulfilled life. Listen, no judgement here. Truth be told maybe I’ve been a little bit of it all. ‘I’ve been a sinner and I’ve been a saint; been lost and somehow I’ve been found’.

Life may have caused some of us to give up on finding true love. After being ‘burnt’ and betrayed, some of us have decided it’s not worth the pain. Probably a liar convinced you that no one will ever want you. You may be loving someone from a distance. Afraid to take a chance- afraid of rejection. I feel you. You may have had your ‘long and lasting love’, but they passed on. You don’t have the desire or the energy to go back down that road. Content with holding on to the memories of what was. Painful or sometimes unwanted divorces can leave us with life-long scars and a skewed view of relationships.

What about those who have decided to do the walk of purity? You’ve decided to do ‘the wait’. Some of us have become recycled virgins. This time around , you intend to do it right. You have decided to take back you. You have given away one of the most sacred part of you to so many people. Still you are left standing – alone. And the struggle is real. Tyrone calls in the midnight hour when you are at your most vulnerable. Samantha visits wearing that perfume! ‘Why, why, why Delilah? I can see you’re no good for me [Tom Jones].’ 😅

This is not a post to give counsel. I just want to say – I get it! Singles are not all the same. The struggles are real, but not every single is miserable and seeking. Some have found purpose and fulfillment giving their love to their life’s calling. Sure every now and then, you want to be held. To be told that you are loved by someone else apart from Jesus. Real truth here! There are some things that God will not do. That’s why He gave us spouses. However, many of us have gained the wisdom to choose carefully between short-term pleasure and long-term pain.

Being loved by another is a beautiful thing. However, if this is not your present reality – It’s OK. There is more to life. As a caution: ‘The grass may look greener on the other side, but it may be artificial turf’. Embrace this season as you trust God for the next. Don’t rust away, get burnt out fulfilling your God-given destiny. Love will find you, if it must!

***BTW: Do you have a brother who loves Jesus and has a job?😂🤣

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