What Once Was

I was in a NYC airport yesterday when two things caught my eye. There was a beloved pay phone—one I haven’t seen in a while. Without saying, I had to snap a shot of it. My grandchildren will undoubtedly have know idea what one looks like; thought I’d capture it for them. Truth be told I don’t even think my younger son remembers them. We’ve indeed come a long way baby! I can’t even imagine someone hugging a pay phone in this germaphobic 2023. Funny, never once did I wipe it off or hold it with a napkin. Amazingly enough, I’ve never gotten sick from using one. Prior to the advent of cell phones, pay phones and beepers were our life line to communicating from the streets. If you ever lived in a big city, you’ll probably remember the lines at the pay phones. Sometimes you had to compete with drug dealers just to make a quick call. The pay phones were often times their ‘business phone’. How things have changed—what once was, no longer is.

‘Never thought you’d leave’

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you might have noticed the changes in prices for just about everything. Yesterday I got sticker shock looking at the cost of using a luggage cart at the airport. The last time I used one at said airport, I paid $3. Today it’s $6. What once was, no longer is.

We’ve often heard, change is inevitable. Sometimes in the process of changing we leave a little piece of us behind—that can cause a bit of sadness even if the change is for our good. Our world seeks after change that brings comfort, privacy, profit, and convenience. With this we’ve given up some of the natural ways people connect —like meeting someone by the pay phone. While making an operator assisted long distance call years ago, I remember meeting a telephone operator who shared my last name. My last name is very uncommon in my native country—we decided we must be related. Of course, some weeks later I met her and her family in person [ at her home 😊].

While we embrace change, let’s not lose sight of those things that make us better. Not all change is growth. Here are some on my list of ‘never change’:

  • Saying ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’/ ‘please and thank you’
  • Being respectful in a house of worship
  • Smiling and mean it
  • Apologizing
  • Taking the lower ground sometimes —being right is highly overrated
  • Giving a gift for no reason
  • Letting someone ahead of you in line
  • Holding the door for the person behind you
  • When someone looks visibly troubled – Stop and ask if they’re okay or if they need help
  • Sitting with someone who’s hurting without discussing the source of their pain
  • Being polite even when it’s hard
  • Walking away
  • Making the call even when texting is easier
  • Calling on their birthday rather than sending a generic electronic message

Not all movement propels us forward. Not all change equals progress. Choose to change when it makes sense —when you risk being stagnant, stubborn, or stupid. Change when God shows you the version of you that doesn’t reflect who He made you to be.

***Thanks for reading- Choose your ‘change’ wisely !

Published by Restored Heart

An educator, author, a mom, friend, and a girl who loves that Her heavenly Father loves doing life with her. Passionate about introducing others to the Christ who heals hearts among other things....

7 thoughts on “What Once Was

  1. Oh, how I remember pay phones. Me and my friends we had all kinds of tricks we did with them. We learned how to get our money back from the payphone after we made a call. The bad habit you learn when you are being mischievous.

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    1. Yep! Still here. Rest, rest and rest…the name of the game for Spring Break. Crawling out of my bed on Thursday to see the Freedom Tower because I promised my students pictures.😊😊


      1. You never know! I’m jumping on the subway from BKLYN. Everyone is working so I may have to tread it alone as I’m heading back to Long Island by Friday.Haven’t been underground for a looong minute… I don’t even remember the stops.😂😂


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